Sunday, December 30, 2012

How to L.E.A.D in 2013




“Quality in a service or product is not what you put into it. It is what the client or customer gets out of it.” Peter Drucker


The new year is just around the corner. 2012 was the year customers began to feel more comfortable by willing to travel more and book their business gatherings at hotels across the world. Hotel managers began to see a positive trend with business travel picking up, creating a new demand that was hard to come by for several years due to economic rollercoaster.

As service leaders, we have to turn up the heat in 2013 and really add more value to our customers. The days of customer satisfaction are gone. The new year will bring opportunities to enrich customer service in a world that’s hungry for beautiful experiences. The next level of customer service will challenge us to create a memorable delightful moments to each and every customer we come into contact with. If those moments will be valuable and meaningful, we will achieve loyalty for years to come.

So how do we begin to L.E.A.D the customer loyalty experience in 2013? Here are some ideas I thought can be valuable to every customer wherever they choose to have their experiences.


Listen to the customer

The gift of our attention and understanding cannot be underestimated. More and more customers are complaining because no one really took the time to listen and understand their needs.  Our ability as leaders to listen and listen well, creates goodwill that brings customer back to our business. We have to be interested in their lives and pay attention to what they are asking of us from the very beginning. To build the bond of understanding, we need a listening ear. Our customers want to feel understood and appreciated for the money they spend. They are spending their hard earned money on our ability to really create an environment for them to be valued and understood. By listening deeply, we make their experience less challenging.

Empathize with the customer

The power of empathy is the essence of all good relationships.  Empathy strengthens our  connection with one another on another level. Empathy allows us to understand the customer better and act on their requests in much more meaningful way. When we are empathetic, we have the ability to understand the customer on a deeper level. It’s an opportunity to make an emotional connection for  understanding them as a people and not just another transaction. When we empathize with the customer, we connect better by helping and reaching out to someone in time of urgent need.

Attention to the customer

Attending to the customer goes beyond being there and showing up to work.  It requires of us to disengage  from our own personal agendas to give more of our attention to the customer.  More and more businesses have invested in their technologies resources and it’s really easy to get distracted and leave the customer behind. As I read and listen to customer’s feedback, I am learning that attention is something we cannot ignore.  We all do more with less and have an extra project to implement but we must not forget to focus on our customers as they keep our doors open and bills paid every month. By giving our immediate attention to customer’s problems and challenges we communicate that they are just as important to our business as any project we are working on.

Delight the customer

Creating a customer for life requires companies to take their customers to the Delight Moments. There is a significant difference between satisfied and delighted customers.  Delighted customers will be more loyal and a business can create e customers for life.  The key for businesses is determined by the right customer experience for the right return. When customers are delighted they share their positive experiences with others. They are raved about the level of service you gave them for their money’s worth. That’s the real value added boost for taking a satisfied customer to a delighted customer. It starts with random of acts of kindness and surprising the customer with something more than they expected . It’s the cherry on top customer experience.


Friday, December 28, 2012

What can I give to life and the world today?

“The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands.”   Robert M. Pirsig

As we wake up each morning, we ponder what life will bring us today? Our day can begin with a different question, “What can I give to life and the world today?”


The question, “what can I give life and the world today,” embodies our sense of purpose to give meaning to our life and the people around us. Our lives begin to have a meaning when we have a burning desire to make a positive difference in the world around us.

How do we define our life’s purpose? How can we create more meaningful connections with others? Harold Kushner remarked, “The purpose of life is to grow and to share. When you come to look back on all that you have done in life, you will get more satisfaction from the pleasure you have brought into other people's lives than you will from the times that you outdid and defeated them. “

To develop our sense of purpose in making a positive difference in our world; let’s practice the four habits of purpose:

Be kinder than anticipated

We sometimes take things and people for granted. The way to make a positive difference in people’s lives is to begin with a mind-set that we are here to be kind to each other. Rabbi Sholmo Wolbe said, “The first step to becoming a kind person is to be aware of the specific needs of each person you encounter.” Sometimes people won’t tell you what they need, but you can reach out and help someone by offering something the person is missing in their life. Kindness can uplift, encourage and influence others for a better situation.

Deliver more than needed

Talking about our purpose is not enough. We have to “deliver the goods.” Are we doing more than expected? Are going the extra mile to give your life a better meaning? We have to be action-oriented if we want to see our life taking a new turn. I was always told there are two kinds of people among us: those who make things happen, and those who wait for things to happen. Deliver the promise!

Inspire and develop others

We need to make a commitment to inspire and develop others. We live to our fullest when we develop the people in our communities we belong to.
The highest call of leadership is taking people where they are at the moment to where they can be tomorrow. Alan Loy McGinnis said, “There is no more noble occupation in the world than to assist another human being-to help someone succeed.” By investing in our future, we dedicate to the growth of the people around us. We care about their hopes and dreams.

Learn more than you have in the past

Learning allows us to pause and reflect.  By earning, we find ways to explore and discover new things. We are never at a point of arrival, but always on the journey to become a better person. Leaders understand that they need to take the time for personal development to continue to grow.  Our effectiveness is determined by our willingness to open our mind to new ways of doing things. Every day, someone discovers another way of doing something. It could be faster or better. In a world of information flow, we constantly have to keep up with the latest discoveries. Mortimer Adler said,” The purpose of learning is growth, and our minds, unlike our bodies, can continue growing as we continue to live.”

Monday, December 24, 2012

What is the best gift you can give someone?


“The best gift you can give someone is yourself-
by giving someone your ear, your hand and your heart.” 
Rick Collins


As part of my preparation last week to deliver customer service training, I looked for stories that I could share as an example to drive home the message of great customer service to our associates.

I came across a story that made me think about my customer service and our team. 

The story was about Rick Collins who achieved the Marriott Award of Excellence.
The Marriott Awards of Excellence were established to recognize the "best of the best" at Marriott. This year, Rick was one of the eight associates who got selected demonstrating the hotel company core values of service. 

The Award of Excellence is presented each year to a select few that demonstrate over a period of time the traits of achievement, character, dedication, effort and perseverance.

I became intrigued with Rick Collins story because he was not a manager. He is the guest service associate at the Courtyard Nashville Downtown. Working at the front desk, Rick became a respected leader in the hotel and the Marriott brand. He is always ready and willing to serve the guest. 

Taking care of the guest was only one element of Rick Collin’s Job. As I read his story, I realized that his mission was to make each person around him better. Although, Rick has faced health issues in the last 14 years, he found the time to coach and mentor his trainees by helping them realize their potential in going above and beyond for the guests.

He takes the time to connect with everyone on his team by encouraging and training them to succeed at their job. He trained almost every employee who works at the front office department and continue to provide support when needed.

So as I learned more about Rick’s service to the guest and his team, I wrote down some pointers to help me discuss it in my training.

What can we learn from Rick’s excellent gifts?


  • He makes it his personal mission to put a smile on the face of every team member.
  • Each one of us can help listen, care and give our heart to someone.
  • Taking team members under his wing. Helping them to settle-in to the front office department and guest needs.
  • Rick is always looking for ways to serve others.
  • He feels like the hotel staff is his family. Rick says, “Why wouldn’t I love to help my family.”
  • Rick “Puts People First.”

Saturday, December 22, 2012

The Three most powerful phrases


"The most important things are the hardest things to say." Stephen King


Communication has taken a whole new meaning over the last few years. Technology amplified the ways we communicate with each other. 

Think about the resources we use almost daily to communicate with other people-Text-messaging, Facebook, Twitter, Blogs and Skype has taken communication to a 24-hour non-stop flow of small interactions between one another. Whether it’s a friend or a family member, we find a way to communicate more than ever before.

With all the technology available for us to communicate, we must remember it’s not about the quantity but the quality of our communication. If we take the time to communicate our message as a meaningful dialogue beyond the tools we use, we will have a chance to improve the quality of our communication.

I thought about some of the words we use to communicate in our daily connections. Which ones are more meaningful and important for everyone to connect?

“I need you”
Each person we meet has the potential to share with us something unique and valuable.  We sometimes need to ask for help and direction from other people. John Wooden, the legendary college basketball coach said,” It's what you learn after you know it all, that counts.”  When we ask and communicate to people we need them, we communicate we trust them with our heart. We co-create together when we say we need someone in our life. “I need you” is an invitation to personal development with others. It’s a way for each one of us to connect on a path that we are still learning. We are still growing and developing as human beings. Greatness can never be achieved alone.

“I appreciate you”
If we really want to communicate value in our relationship, we must acknowledge the importance of each person we interact with. We need to let them know how much we appreciate their contribution and efforts to make a difference.  Words of appreciation sometimes can be undervalued. We tend to assume the other person understood our gratitude. Saying the words “thank you” is not the same as “I appreciate you.” When we communicate appreciation and gratitude, we are directing the unique value in each person contribution. Voltaire, the French philosopher said, “Appreciation is a wonderful thing: it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”

“I am sorry”
The ability to apologize requires us to communicate something we did wrong.  Sometimes, we need to take the time to communicate our shortcomings. The words “I am sorry”, means we truly reflected on our conduct and want to make it up. It’s hard to express those words, but we need to start with empathy and understanding of the other person’s point of view. Being sorry is a great way to recognize we are all imperfect. It makes our soul pure with our human hearts. It shows our efforts in wanting to be in relations with others when things don’t go well. 

Thursday, December 20, 2012

From ordinary to extraordinary

A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results. Wade Boggs 



The dictionary defines the word extraordinary as highly exceptional and remarkable, going beyond what is usual or customary.


The world around us is changing fast. Companies are selling a product or a service to someone that may have a better value than its competitor. But we all sell experiences. 

Whether you sell the latest I-phone or a new pair of Air Jordan shoes, it’s how people feel about the products they purchased. But, in some places the experiences we sell to the customer comes from the people delivering the extraordinary remarkable service.

For example at Zappos, their philosophy is to Deliver the Wow through their service. I want to share with you a statement from their core values they highly stress in their culture of WOW service- “You must do something that's above and beyond what's expected. And whatever you do must have an emotional impact on the receiver. We are not an average company, our service is not average, and we don't want our people to be average. We expect every employee to deliver WOW. “

In other words, we have to deliver the extraordinary. We don’t want ordinary or just to be average. Extraordinary is something each us has to remember when we want to create a better value to our customers. Customers don’t remember ordinary, they remember extraordinary. Everyone can make a memorable difference.



So, how can we be become extraordinary? What are three essentials for remarkable performances?

Be a value creator

When we think about value, we think about how to add more value to take our product or service to a higher level. It’s about the EXTRA stuff. It’s about the BONUS for the customer. We can add more value by going above the expectations. It’s what I call the Surprise and Delight moments that our customers remember. Something they didn’t anticipate or expected but created a memory they will never forget because of your service. Here is one quick suggestion-perform Random Acts of Kindness daily.

Be a problem solver

Customers love problem-solvers. Mistakes happen sometimes and we have to show the ability to step up and own them. Sometimes problems occur because of someone else, but in order to be extraordinary, we have to solve problems we may have not have created ourselves. 

Here is a quick suggestion-When you are facing a problem, think about the other person having the problem and how would you like to be treated if that problem was yours? Change the perspective and you begin to realize how important it is to have the problem resolved immediately. Don’t’ be a problem spotter, but be a problem solver.

Be a team player

Going from ordinary to extraordinary is a team play. The days of one person making a difference is long gone. If we want to make a positive remarkable difference, it involves other people. It involves adding value and helping other people become better than they are. 

It’s the leadership test of whether someone is better because of you. Here is a quick suggestion-find a way to reach out and try to add something to someone’s day. Find a way to help them in some way. They will be sure to appreciate it. If you are part of a team, it’s the contribution we make to the total team effort.

Saturday, December 15, 2012

The test of our character




What defines our character?


Our character is defined by the most difficult trials we face. It’s our finest hour. Whatever is truly inside us is revealed.

We either face the challenges directly or we ran away from them hoping it will change overtime. 

Our character is built inside our soul in order to gather up strength to meet those challenges. It’s not what’s in front of us that matter but what’s inside each of us that determines the power of our character.  Adversity is a moment of transformation to our souls to make a humble sacrifice.

The path to true leadership requires courage to take the initiative to make good things happen. By taking initiative, we are making a choice. Leadership is not a position but a choice. Albert Einstein said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” So, we have to approach our problems with a healthy constructive mindset. But it takes character to confront our most trying times.

Character is an inside job. When we begin to guide our internal light, our faith to serve, we begin look at ourselves first. If we want everything around us to get better, we have to get better. Don’t look for others to change and don’t look for easy short cuts. Our ability to improve things around us will always depend on our ability to change ourselves because we are never at a point of perfection in life. We are work in-progress.

Our trials unlock our character virtues.  They reveal to us who we really are at the most crucial moments. The obstacles and difficulties we face are the stumbling blocks for our spiral of growth. Without them, we go through life without changing and growing.


The test of character is part of our true development as human beings. When we face adversity, character builds us. Character molds us. 

It’s the foundation of which our human soul is renewed through the tough encounters. We begin to discover our true path to a better self. Life is about becoming, instead of arriving. We must embrace and commit to character building because we are designed to handle the difficulties of life. Wisdom is not given but earned.

Our future is depended on the development of our character because it polishes our sacred spiritual heart. It brings us good things. It brings us experiences we cherish and remember for a life time.                          

What can Leaders do?

Leaders can serve better by being a light, instead of a judge. Leaders must model the way and set the example. We show our character in the small things of life-small acts of sacrifices to serve each other. Leaders understand the small gestures of service. 

It’s not what we’ll do tomorrow that counts, but what we do today that makes an impact for years to come. Make a decision to make a positive difference today. 

These acts of service come from our heart to awaken the spirit of reciprocity in our relationships. It’s not what we get, but what we contribute to a meaningful synergy.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Are you a Bravo Performer

“You can earn more when you do more. You can charge more when you provide more. You can have more when you give more.” Mark Sanborn


Sometimes when we go to a concert or a show, we are moved by the performance and the artist that we begin to clap, cheer and yell,”Bravo!”-wanting to see the artists perform one more act. These Bravo experiences make us feel good and we are craving more and more.

Our world is looking for people who produce Bravo experiences-people who make a positive impact on others. These performers are indispensable to our world.

As employees and managers, our performance can make our team better, execute a project together, spark creativity, and delight customers. We don’t have to be a singer, a musician or an actor to create a Bravo performance. However, each one of us performs at an office, an assembly line, a classroom, a playing field, a home, a showroom or a hospital. Do you show up as a performer?

When we create excellence for our customers and employees, they want to come back for more. We made a positive difference in their life. They want to come back for more. But what created the Bravo effect in those interactions with our customers and employees?

Passion

Bravo performance begins with our passion to serve. It begins with our intention and energy to provide uplifting memorable service. When we have passion, people are excited to be around us. We take positive actions toward helping another customer or another colleague.  It goes beyond just showing up for work and completing your projects. Passionate people make their performance and interactions memorable beyond the tangibles. We are captivated by their actions and how they go about doing it.

So discover what your passion is. When you discover what drives you, you will begin to notice a value in your abilities that adds value to your team performance and customer loyalty. They would ask for more of your services and more of who you are as a person because you made a difference in their day. When people are excited about you and what you have done for them, the opportunities for growth are endless.

Authenticity
There are no boring jobs, only people who perform them. Authenticity helps us connect better so we can give Bravo experiences to those we serve. Authenticity helps us stay real and true to our unique experiences with our customers and employees. Think about your favorite musician or movie. They came across very real and authentic in their performance that could not be duplicated somewhere else.  You probably wished it never ended and wanted to listen more or watch more. By being unique and original you ignite the customer interest and delight to come back for more memorable experiences.

Evaluate
Take time to reflect and make adjustments to your performance. It’s all about fine tuning and polishing our acts. We are work in progress. Bravo performances take time and the ability to go back and make modifications of the things that didn’t go well. It doesn’t mean we can’t overcome a bad performance. It means we also have to listen closely to the audience and understand how we can grow.

Saturday, December 8, 2012

The three essentials of great teams

"The achievements of an organization are the results of the combined effort of each individual." Vince Lombardi


As a leader there is nothing more rewarding than watching your team grow and develop to its full potential. 

All Great teams share several common fundamentals that separate them from the rest. All of us at some point or another, been part of a great team and felt a part of a big picture. In today’s business environment, we need the commitment of people working together in a synergetic way. 

My success means nothing unless we did it together as a team. Ask any athlete in almost every sport and they will tell you, individual achievements are not as meaningful as team achievements. In fact, most athletes raised their personal value after winning championships with their teams. These athletes became legends in their own field by winning several championships year after year.

What are some of the essentials of great teams that we can develop as leaders?

Purpose

Every team needs a vision of where they are going together. What are we trying to accomplish as a group? What’s our common goal? Every leader should help their team understand that vision clearly. Effective leaders thrive on communicating the team vision day in and day out. They never assume that everyone understands. It’s important to keep the vision in front of everyone on the team to help them focus on the outcome, the results of all the efforts and talent. Effective leaders create an empowering environment through their on-going communication to effectively work on a link between the vision of the organization.

Trust

Trust is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s the foundation of successful teams.  When you create an environment of where people can be honest with each other and have open communication, you create a safe place that would serve everyone for the long run. As leaders, we must begin with ourselves in order to create on-going transparency and honesty with our team. 


We can increase our trust through sharing our honest feedback of where we are at any given moment. We are able and willing to be open with each other to mentor for better results together. That feedback loop has to be consistent as we try to establish daily honest communication by learning how to share bad news as well as good news. When you have trust, the bad news is part of the constructive development process which helps people get better with their daily efforts.

"The best job goes to the person who can get it done without passing the buck or coming back with excuses." Napoleon Hill 

Accountability

Accountability is a two-way street. We can’t have accountability with only one person. Great teams hold each other accountable for the results they achieved or not achieved as a team. At the end of the day, everyone on the team has to have the courage to take responsibility for the actions taken on any given day. When you have team spirit, everyone succeeds together and everyone fails together. But without the ability to be vulnerable and admit your mistakes, the team will never achieve better results.  It takes courage and humility to understand we are not always at our best, but we grow and develop when we hold ourselves and others accountable for the results.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

The three Es of Leadership

One of the most beautiful gifts in the world is the gift of encouragement. When someone encourages you, that person helps you over a threshold you might otherwise never have crossed on your own. John O'Donohue


When we think about leadership today, we think about how we can influence others in an inspiring and meaningful way.  Leadership is not about us. It’s more about our team ability to achieve their potential in a nurturing environment. As leaders, we are responsible to creating an environment where people feel inspired and can flourish to a better future. Their success is our success.


So as leaders, how can we create a growth potential environment for our teams? When you ponder about this question, we think about the people in our lives that made a positive difference.  We felt part of a team and we took massive action to grow. 

As I thought about these leaders in my personal life and career, I thought about three key characteristics that separated these people from the rest. They are not new concepts, but when you apply them in your relationships, you will begin to notice a positive difference.

Encouraging
Encouraging leaders are interested in everyone’s aspirations and hopes. The dictionary defines the word encouragement as the ability to inspire with courage, hope and confidence.  Encouragement is about building people up when they need a hand and a heart. We need to stretch a hand to our people to lift them up again. We need to listen with our heart to understand and show empathy to their stories.

What can we do to encourage?

  • Communicate everyone value and worth- We need to value open communication and respect the person behind the message.
  • Help facilitate action plans to explore each person potential development to the team. Coach when necessary.
  • Recognize efforts and improvements. Appreciate and celebrate the small successes.

Enabling
Enabling leaderships is about helping others to experience, know and do things better. It’s what we do when we want to help our team to learn and develop. We enable others to lead better. It’s focusing on people development.  As leaders, we must supply the means and the knowledge for our team to get the work done.

What can we do to enable?

  • Share knowledge-we must share relevant information that helps our team to perform their tasks better.
  • Provide systems that eliminate non-value added work-Put good people in a bad system, and they will fail.
  • Appropriate tools and technologies-We need to provide our team the latest technology to access the information to enhance the customer experience and work more efficiently.


Enlarging
Helping others enlarge themselves is one of the most incredible things any leader or a coach can do. Denis Waitley said,” The greatest achievements are those that benefit others.” As people develop their skills and gifts, they begin to produce better results. They feel like they can contribute to the overall mission. When you enlarge others, you help them with their development and empower them to reach their potential.

What can we do to enlarge?
  • See their potential and help develop it.
  • Help them create enlarging experiences that create memories.
  • Be a good mentor by placing them in a position to succeed. 




Sunday, December 2, 2012

The power of connecting

"We cannot live for ourselves alone. Our lives are connected by a thousand invisible threads, and along these sympathetic fibers, our actions run as causes and return to us as results." Herman Melville


Our connections determine how we grow, who we become and how equipped we are to fulfill our relations with others. It’s through meaningful connections that our hearts are fulfilled.


We were designed to connect with others. In connecting with others we enrich and nourish our relationships.  Connecting encourages us to work with others, through dialogue, and through a sense of belonging and searching together. Our personalities deepen and grow as we seek to engage with others. We gain openness and respect for others when we willing to share more and learn more.

Our connections with others are largely depending on our own ability and attitudes. By examining and reflecting on our behaviors, we can better understand how to connect in a meaningful way. This requires the suspension of our own personal agenda in exchange for a relational one. Our relationships begin to flourish when we are both present in the connection together. It creates a powerful connection that continues to build upon previous small connections.

When we connect, we come to know. When we come to know, we are able to understand better. Every one of us as a deep desire to be understood respected and appreciated.  We are all individuals with our own kind of richness and gifts to be discovered.  

Personal development speaker and author Zig Ziglar, who died this week said,   "Every person has unique gifts, and those gifts give him or her the power and the opportunity to accomplish great things, if he or she learns how to use those gifts and channel them in the right direction."

Real communication implies something deeper than polite acceptance of those who are different. It means accepting those who are different, appreciating them and their views, creating bonds of authentic friendships with them. These connections are vital for human growth. We need courage to accept each other differences. We are all part of a community. Whether we are with our family, friends or colleagues, we are part of a community. Our communities are the sum of all us. We meet together to create something bigger than ourselves.

"Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance self. And only through working on the selfcan we begin to enhance our connectedness to others." Harriet Goldhor Lerner

By connecting, we have to discover who the other person is and through real dialogue. In the process of connecting we also discover more of who we are. As we deeply listen and meet the other person, we begin to see their uniqueness and strengths.

When we enter relationships, we open our hearts to one another to discover a bigger meaning than our selves. We pour our life to others to create a memorable journey together. The journey we take together is a journey of mutual discovery. It’s a journey that can be defined by our character, trust, respect, and ability to have the courage to make changes in our attitudes.

Personal relationships involve our openness, vulnerability, by a way of listening to, understanding, and caring for others that reveals to them their values and worth.  We add value to people when we love and respect them instead of ignoring and being indifferent to them. We create a strong connection when we get to know each other, appreciate each other, seeing each other value and receiving from each other.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Significance-A way to a Meaningful Life




Deep within each one of us there is an inner desire to live a life of significance and contribution. Each one of us, is longing for a better future. We want to make a difference. We want to leave the world a better place. We can start the journey by asking ourselves- do we live a life of significance by adding value to others so that we leave a memorable legacy?

Each of one of us has a search for a meaning. We cherish those experiences that blossom us to be all we can be. We enchant in the moments of our greatness. Those moments seem to make us grow and develop to the best version of ourselves.

The journey of significance takes time. It requires persistence and dedication. Mostly, it requires you to pour your life into others.  Those who want to create significance seek deeper connections to their relationship with others. They live a life with the awareness of how they can contribute and enhance relationships. American author and poet Maya Angelou rightfully said, “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

No one wants to spend their lifetime doing something unimportant. People want to do something that matters.  People want significance in their life. When we strive for success in life, we ask, “How can I add value to myself?”  When we want significance we need to ask, “How can I add value to others?” Instead of asking what others can do for me? I need to ask what can I do for others.

“Those on the journey to living a higher-purpose life have a tenacious desire to live a life of meaning and significance.” Jim Reger


We grow and develop to create a better world around us when we have something to give. We can create significance by placing value on our connections and contributions we make on a daily basis. We add significance when we making a meaningful impact on others.
Significance gives meaning to our life. Each one of us can have a noteworthy impact on the world around us. 

·         We can engage with others to give something from ourselves.
·         We can connect with others to learn what inspires them.  What gives their lives meaningful purpose?

Our most memorable moments are the ones when someone came into our life and helped us discover our true north. People that create significance have a life calling bigger than themselves.
As leaders, we either have a positive impact or negative impact on the people we lead. Ask yourself, are you making things better for your team? Are they better off today because you made the effort and took the time to encourage them to succeed? You have to be intentional in creating significance.

Some of the best leaders we know are less interested in their titles or their position. They want to make things better for other people. Albert Schweitzer, the 1952 Nobel Prize winner advised, “Seek always to do some good, somewhere. Every man has to seek in his own way to realize his true worth. You must give some time to your fellow man. For remember, you don’t live in a world all your own. Your brothers are here too.”

When you add significance to people lives, you lift them up, you help them advance, and make them part of something bigger than themselves. You take them along the journey of becoming who they were made to be.

Significance is the cherry on top.

Significance is the extra mile. Significance is your potential.

Monday, November 26, 2012

Turning a loyal customer into a friend


Over the past weekend I had the pleasure to meet someone special to one of our loyal customers. 

Mr. Pham is a Platinum Level Elite (the highest level of Marriott Reward Guest) who stays at our hotel on a weekly basis since the beginning of the year. 


This is literally his home away from home. He stays with us for several days and by now, he has “trained” my entire team on his room preference location in the entire hotel.

Mr. Pham also has two essential requests on every trip that he can’t live without and should always be part of the room.  He must have a refrigerator and a microwave. These two things are his “non-negotiable”.

When you tell me Mr. Pham is arriving, I ask two questions of my team-“Did we block him into a nice room and did we make sure we have a refrigerator and a microwave?” Mr. Pham buys his groceries on the first day he arrives and instead of eating out all week; he has everything he needs for the week in his suite.

When you spend almost 52 weeks in a hotel, your family away from home is the hotel staff. It’s like coming home to your spouse, but instead you are greeted and taken care of by several team members. We have become Mr. Pham’s “family” away from home for almost the entire year.
Well…since I mentioned spouse, I wanted to share with you who Mr. Pham introduced to his “second family” this past weekend with happiness and joy.

Her name is Ann, soon to be his fiancée! Ann drove from Houston to stay with Mr. Pham over this past weekend in his special upgraded room.  To make the moment more memorable, we surprised and delight the couple with our Romance Package amenities. It includes Champagne and chocolate covered strawberries and breakfast for two.


The couple was delighted for the memorable weekend together. They both have families in the Dallas area to get to know and break the news.
On one of the days as they came back, Mr. Pham introduced his future fiancée. 

Our team had the opportunity to engage and connect with the special person in his life. Ann had a very inviting, warm demeanor and easy to chat with. You can tell by her genuine smile that she was delighted to meet the team.

These moments make my heart melt for several reasons. First and foremost, our loyal guest had felt comfortable with our team to share this special moment in his life. We felt part of the family. We created a relationship that goes beyond the transaction of checking a guest-in a guest to the hotel.

Secondly, and probably more significant, was a moment of happiness and joy for Mr. Pham’s new chapter in his life. We became his friends.

These moments go beyond customer service. 
These moments are relationships for a life time. 
These moments are very meaningful and inspiring to my growth as a service  provider to customers.


They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but sometimes experiences can create the same emotional connection to create another memorable chapter in our life.


Friday, November 23, 2012

We all have the need to be acknowledged




"Next to physical survival,the greatest need of a human being is psychological survival-to be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated and to be appreciated." Stephen Covey

One of the best questions any leader can ask themselves is- How do I really hear what my team needs from me, and orient myself to support them? People feel better understood when you connect to their cause and care enough to show how valuable each person can become to the organization.

According to a recent study by Towers Perrin, the single highest driver of employee engagement is whether the leader is genuinely interested and cares enough for the well- being of their employees.

As leaders, we have the opportunity to look for positive qualities in your team, rather than looking for problems to be fixed. It creates an environment that establishes mutual respect and trust. You have the opportunity to reveal your team strengths, qualities and capabilities by acknowledging what they do right.  Sometimes, we take for granted what works right without sincerely appreciating the value of people’s daily contribution.

Here is an example how you can acknowledge someone at work, “James, as I watched you run your team meetings, I saw your ability to deeply listen to your team. Your openness and patience allowed them to speak honestly, which in turn helps them grow.”

Acknowledgment goes beyond the person’s action to recognize the qualities and characteristics that enable that person to do what they did.  We acknowledge specific qualities and actions that we really like and admire about someone. We bring their inner- character value to light.

"Pretend that every single person you  meet has a sign around his or her neck that says, Make Me Feel Important. Not only you will succeed in Service, you will succeed in life." Mary Kay Ash

Here is a simple way to think about it-Remind people who they are instead of what they did or didn’t do. So how can you as a leader acknowledge others better to create an engaging environment?

  • Identify the qualities that enabled your team member to perform as they did.
  • Keep your acknowledgment simple and to the point.
  • Be honest and speak from the heart. Be authentic in your communication it has a better impact.

Appreciation and acknowledgement focuses on performance and the employee value as a person. It begins with the leader’s acts of service.


Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Giving Thanks on Thanksgiving






Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are charming gardeners who make our soul blossom.” Marcel Proust

As the Thanksgiving holiday is upon us, we take the time to reflect on what we are thankful for.  Thankfulness is a joyful journey to our heart of gratitude. But, we can’t be thankful with ourselves alone. We need others to be thankful. To be thankful each day, we need to look positively at the people around us.  We take the time to really appreciate those who we come in contact with. I realize not every interaction is a positive one but with a sense of gratitude, we constructively also appreciate the challenges along the way.

By being thankful, we appreciate what is right in our life. By being thankful, we highlight the strengths of others instead of their shortcomings.  That’s why gratitude is so powerful. It’s our natural state of looking at the glass half full. We tend to feel that we always have to be number one. Always finish ahead of everyone else. However, having an attitude of gratitude is about appreciating the journey to success. Each of us is a person on the path to become better person through our daily moments of gratitude.
Gratitude is about abundance and fullness in our lives. Melody Beattie said, “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life, and it turns what we have into enough and more.” When we begin to think of abundance, we begin to think what we have done today can be a building block for tomorrow.  We cherish the stepping stones as part of the trip. We have the courage to enter other people lives and communicate how much we value them.   Remember, it’s what we focus on the most.


  • ·Everyone has something to offer.  
  • ·Everyone is unique.
  • ·Everyone has something right about them.

Sometimes it takes a while to discover it and unlock that potential, but we begin with what is right. Begin today and reach out to someone you really care about. Show them how much your value and appreciate what they have done for you. It’s an amazing feeling making someone else feel good and appreciated.   Robert Ingersoll summed it up by saying, “We rise by lifting others.” Their world is brighter because you provided the sunshine in their day. It requires enough trust and openness to see the goodness in other people. When we live with a thankful heart, we realize there is more to give.
Here is what I am thankful for as I try to focus on gratitude every day. First and foremost, I am thankful for my loving parents-Arie and Sarah. They are great role models of leadership. We are influenced by what we see and what I see is something very special. Something I am blessed with. I am blessed to be their child because of how much I have learned from them. I may have not appreciated it when I was younger, but as I grow I begin to appreciate more and more.  My parents are special and I am lucky to have them in my life as they bring joy and happiness to my life. They add value to my life.
I am also very thankful for my two younger brothers-Idan and Liraz. Although we live in different cities now, I always seek their input and feedback on my life in whatever venue I choose to follow.  They are supportive and encouraging.  Only in recent in years we have bonded together to understand each other personalities and attitudes, but I am blessed with having a wide range of their opinions as sometimes we may not agree but we learn from each other strengths.  We focus on the right things.

Our family was also expanded almost two years ago with the addition of my nephew Remy. He is adorable. He brings a big smile every time I see his pictures.  He is full of energy and joyful to be around. We can’t get enough of him!
Last but not least, I want thank my sister in law- Tamar. Remy continues to grow beautifully because of Tamar’s love and warmth.  Her influence on Remy has created a warm, caring environment for him to grow and develop nicely.
The more thankfulness we express, the more we experience the richness of soul that grateful feelings produce.