As
leaders, we all want to have positive influence in our personal and
professional life. How do we morally and ethically influence the lives of
others in a positive way?
The
late Stephen Covey once said, “The key
to human influence is first to be influenced—first understand, before seeking
to be understood. People are only open to influence when they feel understood.”
When
we think about influence, we think how to communicate our own message first. We
want to make sure people understand our vision and expectations first. But
influence, can be viewed as a communication process that seeks to understand another
point of view and concerns before ours.
When
we first seek to understand another person, we are first influenced by their
feedback and point of view. By doing so, we empower them to articulate their
views and concerns because we care to listen to their story. Their story
becomes part of our story as we share a common ways to achieve success
together.
As
Covey mentioned in his powerful statement, people
will be more open and receptive when you are willing to find out more about
them and their story. To communicate effectively, we also have to be
empathetic and listen deeply to understand people better. As leaders we must
make time to listen, ask questions and walk along side with the people on our
team.
The
best way to reach out and influence others is to understand who they are as
humans:
What makes them
excited?
What drives them?
What makes them go
the extra mile?
What can we do help
with their concerns?
Good
leaders sense others' feelings and adjust their approach to match the
audience's ability to receive their message. Leaders use their emotional
understanding to influence others in positive ways because it creates a significant
relationship.
We
begin our communication with the intent to understand, instead of the intent to
respond. We need to empathize as we build our relationships together because
when we communicating with one another, we want to be sincere and completely
present.
Here are few ways
to understand and care:
Recognize the best
in others
As
a leader, you can make a positive impact and have powerful influence when you
bring the best in others. Each person has potentials and we need to communicate
those to them on a regular basis. Believe in others as a meaningful connection
toward their self-development. They will see and feel the motive comes from a
good place in your heart.
Perform an act of
service
An
act of service is another good way to care for another person. It’s our way of
placing other people’s needs before our personal needs. We put their best
interest in our heart and willing to give from our heart to make their day
better.
Encourage openness
and vulnerability
Good
Leaders foster trust in their circle of influence. They encourage full disclosure
and a safe environment for their people to voice their views. Good leaders have
the courage to be vulnerable to hear what’s not working right and the ability
to recognize their own shortcomings. By practicing openness and vulnerability,
we create a strong circle of trust with everyone around us as they feel safe without
someone ignoring their views.
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